An Independent Woman.
Something to aspire to?
We sing songs about it, wear the badge proudly, teach our daughters….
Where exactly, in the Word, is this concept?
In the world, yes.
In the Word, no. It’s not in His plan.
It’s a lie. A lie we have bought in to hook, line and sinker.
We are told and taught we should not depend on any man. And that much is true…to some degree.
Our dependence should be on God.
Not on any man….at least not in full.
And definitely not on ourselves.
Not a popular opinion, I know. But not just my own either.
It is the way God created us…wired us.
And listen, this is coming from a single mom who raised three kids with precious little help from any man. I was forced to pick up slack. I had to juggle more than I ever thought possible.
Was it stressful? Hard? Completely overwhelming?
Because I was not created to carry such a load by myself!
What an incredibly free-ing moment when I finally saw that I was not a failure!
What is failed is the notion that any woman can—and should—aspire to ‘do it all.’
Go ahead, grit your teeth and tell me I’m trying to set women back to the dark ages.
I will politely disagree.
I’d like to see us catapult into a ‘light age’—where dark lies no longer hold us hostage and men and women know the roles for which they were created, and live in them.
Men…..Husbands love your wives as Christ loves the Church.
Oh….OH…..wait! Oh, that word! THAT. WORD. Submit! Submit!?!?!
We have become so afraid of that word!
It has become a ‘bad’ word. A bad idea. A bad joke. Just bad….
But wait….Who said we should submit?
Only the One who created us. The One who never changes. The One we say we are submitting to…..
The hard truth is we can’t pick and choose what we will submit to when it comes to following God.
It’s all or nothing. Hot or cold. No double-minded-ness. No lukewarm-ness.
We can follow God or we can follow culture. It’s a choice we have to make every single day, in many areas.
I am a single woman. I am not dependent on any man.
I am also not independent. I am not dependent on myself. (I’ve tried it. It’s exhausting and ultimately futile!)
I am not ashamed or afraid to tell you I am completely, utterly, desperately dependent on God.
I submit to Him. Because I trust He knows best….